Interview on The Ropecast
Although I haven’t done much with rope, Gray still wanted to talk. And he got a lot out of me. Hear me giggle a lot over cocktails and talk about how not to be the creepy guy at a party and discover some more of my kinks.
Thanks for a good time, Gray. Hope we can do it again. Next time with rope.
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axe said,
September 6th, 2008 at 12:11 pm
Just listened to it.
I’m with you 100% on not wanting to waste time on someone vanilla. I’m curious if you can recommend a swing event for a single submissive guy. Most seem to be couples and single women only. The few I’ve found that allow single men charge an arm and a leg for it.
I go to a number of BDSM events but find the number of dominant women to be fairly low.
Any advice?:)
Chris O'Sullivan said,
September 17th, 2008 at 1:17 pm
The How to: Not be the Creepy Guy book is a must read once it’s been written but it will take a group or a non couple to write it.
The rope work that you described sounds more like a harness than any major level of restraint. You might check out Knotty boys dot com (no spaces) for some cool ties etc.
I’ve done a few harnesses for exhibition, auction and sex parties and work with Mike West on his tiedoutwest dot com shows.
I find that Munches are moderately useful in meeting kinky people.
Axe, getting to know women in the BDSM community even if they currently identify as a submissive allows you into their circle of friends that includes dominant women that less commonly go to the munches and declare that they are Dominant (because no-one really wants to get swamped with unsolicited requests.) Patience and building friendships lead to finding the people that fit with you sexually. Good luck
mia said,
September 17th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
I agree, it could take an army to write the “How to Not be the Creepy Stalker” book.
Thanks for the links about ties. I will check them out. Although the time I was tied up was not by an expert and the tie not very sophisticated, it was still fun.
I agree with your advice for Axe. There are women who do not identify as Dominant immediately because they do not want to get inundated with eager slave boys. As noted in the interview, a slave boy kept licking my boots at a party even though I kept telling him that I was not a Domme. Persistence is key, but so is listening.
Axe and I have been emailing a bit about his quandary about finding a Domme woman. And I think it is true, patience and building friendships, and putting yourself out there will lead to finding a good sexual partner, eventually.