My first encounter with the stroking technique that ultimately became OM came when I met a cute guy at a party. He gave me what I thought was the best pick-up line I’d ever heard. He said he wanted to put his attention on my orgasm for 15 minutes and I didn’t have to do anything in return. I still can’t quite believe I said yes but I did, and that’s how I first practiced it. I became very interested in the experience not just physically but mentally. I had been planning to move into the San Francisco Zen Center at the time, and I found it quieted my mind in much the same way meditation did. So I found out where he’d learned it, and went and lived with a community that was teaching it. Later I studied with a teacher named Ray Vetterlein, who became my mentor. He’d learned it in the 60s and taught it right up until he passed away last month.

At a certain point I realized I could marry the practice with everything I’d learned along my path of personal development, from Kabbalah to Zen. So with Ray’s encouragement I took the practice and made it into Orgasmic Meditation. I changed the technique in certain ways and began to lay down a philosophy that went with it. That philosophy is what ultimately came to be “Slow Sex.” It’s what makes OM different from other stroking practices out there.

2. The purpose of OM is not to orgasm, but to slow down and feel sensation. Why do you think it is important to focus on sensations rather than climax?

Most women are not having the sex they want to have. We want sensation and connection, but most of us are having goal-oriented sex that gets progressively faster and harder. Speed and pressure numb a woman’s most sensitive spot—her clitoris—so she has to work harder and harder to get the sensation she wants. By slowing down and re-learning how to feel, it’s possible to get exponentially more sensation with a fraction of the effort.

OM or Orgasmic Meditation does just that. It increases a woman’s capacity to feel arousal and sexual sensation, a little bit at a time. What you discover is that you don’t need to go faster and harder to feel heightened sensation. You can’t help but feel it! And that’s why I’ve discovered that the best sex is the slowest sex: the kind where you don’t want to move an inch.

3. If an orgasm is a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10, then if I understand OM right, the OM practice is about riding the waves of 0-9 for the sheer joy of riding those waves. By taking the goal of orgasm out of the equation, more pleasure may be derived. And by that sense can someone use OM for a “regular” sex practice? And if used in a “regular” sex practice is OM about delaying orgasms or just not focusing on them and riding the 0-9 waves?

You’re exactly right when you say that by taking any goal—climax or otherwise—out of the equation, suddenly the whole game shifts. OM is about finding the deepest pleasure available in each moment, right now, regardless as to whether you are having a climax. So no, it’s not at all about delaying orgasm. It’s about experiencing a new definition of orgasm—one that is far more broad than the specific moment of climax. One that takes into account every single tingle, every shiver, every swirl of heat and wave of chills that comes through you when you are in connection with another human being.

The principles of OM can definitely be taken into your “regular” sex life! In fact, they can be taken into every aspect of your life. They are all about noticing the sensations of pleasure in your body. Most of us spend our lives, and perhaps especially our sex lives, in our heads. We are constantly thinking about what we should be doing, thinking, feeling. What OM teaches us is how to put our attention on what we’re actually feeling, right now. The result is bigger than the sum of its parts! Everything starts to come alive.

4. The practice of OM is done with a partner. Can is also be practiced alone?

The practice does require a partner. It’s a touchy subject to say that a woman cannot experience this kind of orgasm alone, but it’s the truth for the simple reason that you cannot take yourself out of control. Just like you can’t tickle yourself, you cannot take yourself out of your own volition. Being out of control is the thing we crave most. It is the experience of orgasm. That’s why we enjoy climax so much: for one split second, we are taken out of the driver’s seat. We lose ourselves, quite literally, in sensation.

But with climax, that experience of being out control lasts only for a split second. The kind of orgasm that can be experienced through OM—an orgasm that is emerging as more natural to women—can last a full 15 minutes or longer. But it only works when there’s another person behind the wheel. The person being stroked can ask for adjustments, but on the whole she is surrendered to the person who is stroking her and her only “goal” is to lose herself in sensation.

5. Your book Slow Sex is based from your years of experiences running One Taste which is online media, courses, and coaching for individuals and couples in orgasm, relationships, and communication. What is the biggest thing you have learned in running One Taste and in writing Slow Sex?

I have learned so very much, I have no idea how to narrow it down! I’ve learned that yes, it’s a crazy idea to open a center devoted to female orgasm. And I’ve learned that as crazy as it is, it can still work. I’ve learned that if you say you’re teaching orgasm, only men show up. But if you say you’re teaching female orgasm, you get about 50% men and 50% women. I’ve learned that what seems like simple common sense logic to me (i.e. that orgasm is the common denominator between all of us, and thus we should all be talking about it) is incredibly confronting for a whole lot of other people.

But perhaps above all else, I’ve learned that being full of orgasm is the key to having a happy life. It’s what makes it possible for me to stop focusing on myself and start connecting with others. OM keeps me feeling satiated and hydrated enough that I can truly connect with everyone in my life: with my partner, my colleagues at OneTaste, my clients, and everyone I meet and interact with on a daily basis. Orgasm is what makes this work so rewarding and so much fun. I can’t imagine doing anything else with my life.

6. Because your work is based on guiding others through Orgasmic Meditation, do you find your own practice of OM challenging?

Not at all! I would say it’s the opposite. I teach OM because I love it so much. It’s a very personal experience for me. OM changed the entire direction of my life. And then there’s the fact that it’s just fun. I practice it every day because I want to! But don’t take it from me—I encourage everyone to try it themselves. You worst thing you might lose is 15 minutes. The best thing you might lose is your sense that you aren’t getting everything you crave from your sex life—and your life as a whole.

Thanks for your bravery to share your skills, Nicole. More “Slow Sex” and Nicole here.

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Climax Gems is gearing the Crystal Hand Job Stroker as a fun toy to use on your man. “Give your man a hand job he’ll never forget,” reads the tagline. With so many sex toys geared towards women, I am down with the concept of a toy exclusively for men that can be used by couples. But a hand job he’ll never forget? Leave the Crystal Hand Job Stroker for private time. If I’m in the room, you can bet my male case study is going to opt for my hands or other body parts over a stroker sleeve. But that’s just how we roll.

The Crystal Hand Job Stroker made by Climax Gems is 6” long, 2” at its widest point, and has 1” opening. The cyberskin toy is phthalate free with a ribbed hourglass tunnel and nubbed sphere for the tip. Also, at the tip is a small opening for easy clean up.

Having reviewed many male masturbators, I found the Crystal Hand Job Stroker to be middle of the line—not the best, not the worst. The size, opening, and contour shape are all decent. And after many uses, the cyberskin has yet to wear thin. The toy is waterproof, which is great for those early morning showers of my male case study when my body parts are still sleeping. As my male case study notes, “The interior ribbing doesn’t come close to feeling like the real deal, but it does feel different from your hand and the variety is nice.”

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Girls Desired opens with Abby Winter models and production team prepping Larissa and Keilyn for a sex blind date. Larissa and Keilyn have not been told anything about one another, in hopes that the anticipation and tension will make for an explosive introduction. For 20 minutes both ladies are interviewed while they get ready. “What color eyes do you like? Who do you think it will be?” the producers question.

I was a little bored at all the blind date squawking, but the reveal was worth the build up. A shy entrance by Keilyn quickly shifts into open mouth kisses, giggles, and hugs. From there the ladies become intimate with each other’s lady parts and give each other a quick O right out of the gate. Politely and passionately, they each take turns using mouths, fingers, and other surprising body parts to get each other off. The eye contact of Larissa as she simultaneously sucks and finger fucks Keilyn is endearingly cute. And one might assume that the wearer of hot pink finger nail polish would not be a lover of lesbian sex, but Keilyn moves her fingers with the knowledge and fervor.

What surprised me about watching Larissa and Keilyn is how little they talk to one another and, yet, how naturally they move into varying positions. I was so drawn into the sex bubble Larissa and Keilyn created. By the end of the hour and fifteen minutes, I was completely crushed out on both and grateful that Larissa is in the second scene.

Larissa and Cleo met at a café where naughty antics develop over crème pie. Their making out began against graffiti marked alleyways and move into a bohemian styled bedroom. The sex and orgasms so real between the two that I felt like I came with them. Oh right. That’s because I did. Many, many times. Red kneed, flushed cheeks, and pulling hair from your mouth—I have been there—and I love watching girls get there.

Having reviewed one other Abby Winters porn, I admit I am becoming a fan. After seeing too much mainstream porn where it is all about hard fucking and cum shots, it is refreshing to watch sex that is genuine. I highly recommend Girls Desired, a 2008 AVN winner of Best Amateur video.

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Having reviewed many vibrators, I am starting to narrow in my criteria for a pleasurable experience. My vibrator requirements are as follows.

The vibrator must:
1. have a steady pulse (no intricate pulsing patterns needed) that can be increased easily.
2. have a nice contour shape that is easy to maneuver.
3. be as quiet as possible. I hate feeling like my neighbors are questioning if I am doing manual labor or getting off.
4. be phthalate free. This is actually not a requirement because I will get off to jelly toys in the name of having a good time. But the more body safe the toy is, the better.

The Evolved Seduction meets all these requirements and more. The satin smooth vibe has three speeds that increase in an intensity that my body can handle. The highest speed does not make my clit numb, but rather lulls me quickly to orgasm. Also, the pacing of speed increase is pleasant. Some vibes have a shocking speed difference from the first to second level and so on.

The tapered, contour shape makes for easy insertion—something that many toys claim, but fail on the comfort. At 1.5 inches across at its widest point and is 7.25 inches long, I found the Evolved Seduction does easily and comfortably double as a phallus and clit stimulator. Another great feature is that the toy is waterproof which is great for bath time and worry free cleaning. I also enjoy the added bonus that the fun, gothic-esque packaging can be kept to house your new fuck toy. I will be housing the Evolved Seduction bedside and I suggest you do the same. It’s a good one.

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I have not used the Hitachi Magic Wand from which the Mini Mistress Massager is based. But I have witnessed woman having intense orgasms from the Sybian masturbation saddle device. After using the Mini Mistress, I now understand the stillness of women’s bodies while on the Sybian, along with the gaping mouths, and astonished faces trying to process the intense pleasure they were feeling.

The Mini Mistress Massager is 8” long, is made with a phthalate free material (plastic and rubber), has five speeds, and comes with a 54″ USB cable and outlet adapter to plug in. The handheld massager has two buttons: one to control the speeds and one to turn the device on and off. With a vibrator of such might, I appreciated the accessibility of a quick on/off button instead of having to pass through all the speeds in order to turn off. Part of the Hustler brand, the Mini Mistress is categorized as a beginner toy. The cleaver and clean packaging of the toy details calories burned per hour in a “pleasure workout:” licking = 28 cals/hour, screaming = 24 cals/hour and the use of the Mini Mistress can burn up to 88/cal hour.

All my vibrators tend to be on the tiny side, so I thought handling the 8 inches of the Mini Mistress would tire my hand. But at only 6 ounces the Mistress felt light and the curve of the handle fit nicely in the palm of my hand. Also, on first handling I noticed that the tip has a flexible neck that allows for flexibility and easier movement.

I plugged the Mistress in, placed the vibrating knob on my clit, and within a few seconds on the first speed, by clit sprung into arousal. The speed was fast, the sensation relaxing, and the Mistress loud. I pushed on to the second speed and it was almost too much. I felt at any moment I was going to orgasm, but I didn’t. Feeling like my clit was getting over stimulated, I moved the Mistress around my labia. I pressed on to the third speed. The Mistress buzzed even louder and I grew a bit self-conscious by the noise. The Mistress demanded so much attention; I could focus on nothing else, my entire body was still except for my vagina occasionally twitching. After a while I found the sweet spot that would bring me to climax, but without over stimulation. But before I climaxed, I wanted to test out level 5. The Mistress hummed at her highest speed and I could only manage a second, the sensation too strong, and my labia becoming numb. I took the massager back to the first speed and my orgasm unfurled.

Since then I have used the Mini Mistress Massager many times, only using the first two speeds. The higher speeds too quickly over stimulate and numb my pussy and the noise more distracting than relaxing. But the sensation and orgasm from the vibration of level 1, gets me off every time. The sensation after using the device is like that of a massage — my skin reeling from the attention and nerves forced into relaxation after being stimulated with such intensity.

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The Grip n Stroke boasts to have superior suction with a noduled head, a soft, intensely ribbed pleasure chamber, a non-slip thumb grip, and an exit hole to control suction. At 4.5 inches long and with an opening of only .5 inches the masturbator is rather small.

Granted, a stroker toy does not need to be as long as one’s shaft, but the device should be easy to slip on and off. The exit hole that the packaging details is .25 inches, which means this masturbator cannot be as easily used as a sleeve that could ride up and down the cock. Unlike many of the jelly masturbators that feel gooey and flopsy in your hand, the Grip n Stroke is sturdy.

The main flaw with the toy is the small openings. As my male case study determined, “If you want to feel like you are having anal sex without lube with an 18 year old, then this is your toy.” To which my response was, “Don’t you want that?” To which he said, “In theory, yes. But I don’t want that experience in a sex toy. That thing pinched my dick and it was too much effort to put on. Plus you aren’t even supposed to put on those things, there are just supposed to slip up and down the shaft, which this one was too tight to do. Plus that grip loop thing is stupid.”

Reviews on Adam & Eve are mixed. Many people had the same thoughts as my male case study, while many enjoy the tightness. I can only judge with my fingers and the ribbing did not amaze me. Also, it is not just that the opening and exit points are small; it is that the opening is so non-vagina like. The hole is literally a circle drilled through the piece. The lack of a softer opening that mimics the original female form, from which the toy is based, is partially to blame for an inadequate sensual masturbation experience.

I would pass on this masturbator, but try the ones my male case study gave a thumbs up to:
Stormy’s Tight Pussy and The Hand Job Stroker.

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The Symphony Massager has five vibration patterns that the manufacturer equates to dance moves. The “moderate” is your basic low buzz, the “intense” is a high buzz, and “tango”, “quickstep”, and “samba” offer varying pulsing patterns. The velvety, soft plastic toy is waterproof, 7.5 inches long and 1.5 inches wide. From reviewing toys I have learned that I am a girl who digs the steady vibrations that can increase in intensity. Pulsing patterns are distracting to me. So even though others are offered I stick to the “moderate” and “intense” settings. Another distracting point when playing with vibes is how much noise they make. The Symphony Massager is more on the loud side, even when hidden under blankets. However, I can forgive its lack of quietness for its ergonomically curved design.

The one button controller on the arch of the Massager can rest on your pubic bone and the slope runs along your labia. The toy is long enough so that my thighs can hold the Massager in place. And then you can be hands free and you all know what that can mean. The options are endless.

My favorite way to use the Symphony Massager is nestling the toy in between my legs while on my belly. With other vibrators maintaining the “right” position while trying to give a blowjob, or make any movements really, can be cumbersome. But because of the curved design and length of the Massager I was able to keep the vibrator right on point. Although not a super quiet toy, the Symphony Massager gives a comforting feeling like hot tea on a winter night. After a long day, I just want to snuggle and ride my Symphony Massager, sometimes alone, and sometimes with a cock in my mouth.

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One continuously replayed moment in porn for me, was a woman taking off her bra. Her breasts were naturally large and jiggled as she moved. She did not perform or exaggerate the removal of her clothing; it was a task that she did countless times in her life without much thought. Maybe the moment was so enjoyable to me because the taking off of her bra was not performed. The act was naturally done and therefore when she stood naked seconds later, I saw her as more vulnerable than before.

Performance, of course, can be titillating. My favorite kind of porn performance is striptease. Strip clubs are generally thought of as male spaces, but I have found many of the dancers love to perform for females. A striptease is most arousing for me when the dancer is so into her performance that I am pulled into her world.

What gets me off creatively tends to get me off sexually as well. I have had the experience of being charged creatively and sexually while watching a few exotic dancers who impressed and inspired me with their routines that were sexually charged, psychically challenging, and told a story. I have also been flushed with a wet spot in my brain and in between my legs with live modern dance, podcasts, books, and most recently Tumblr blogs.

Tumblr blogs are quick snippets into people’s world. Many of the ones I enjoy mix quotes about sex and sexuality with images of hard-core fucking, sensuality, and soft sexiness. The curation of these images and words takes me on a journey where I can easily scroll and pause on what makes feel electrified. Like this image from Patricia Yague’s Let Me In.

What is the story here? How long has she been waiting to have his cock by her face? My imagination wanders thinking about their story and all the naughty things they do to each other.

Or my libido might be driven by the tenderness captured in this moment from the Fuck Yeah Dykes blog. Instead of making up a story about the people in the photograph, I am reminded of my stories behind doorstep kisses.

Or this quote found on a February 5th, 2011 post on the Sex Is Not The Enemy blog:

“The more I explore sexuality and sex-positivity, the more I realize that there’s just as much judgment in the statement “sex is wonderful” as there is in “sex is awful.” It’s just as problematic to say “anal sex is amazing” as “anal sex is terrible.” That’s because sex is too big to fit into one adjective. Sex is both amazing and awful, depending on the situation you’re talking about. Sometimes, anal sex is amazing, at least for some people. And sometimes, it’s awful, again, at least for some people. There’s no sexual act that is always X or Y.”

- Sex-Positivity and Asexuality: Bringing Them Together | Charlie Glickman

I may have already seen this quote Charlie Glickman’s website, or I may have missed it. But regardless, it is the context of reading this quote about sex among images of sex that sparks my lady porn bits.

I really enjoy the curation of the Sex Is Not The Enemy blog for its inclusion of non-normative body types, body grooming, and pairing. Sometimes, the image we never thought would do it for us does. And this is why I turn to Tumblr blogs for my ladyporn. Unlike visiting most porn sites where pairings and acts are neatly categorized, with Tumblr blogs you are viewing the titillating and thought provoking images selected by someone else. I have no idea what I will see when I hit the next button, but I know if I don’t like it, I can quickly move on to another image. I also have little or no information on the person behind the blog, which makes me feel like I am a voyeur on a voyeur.

My porn needs can be so finicky (I’d like a sliver of authenticity, a moment of tenderness, a mention of the rough stuff, an image of this, and a close up of that) and surfing Tumblr blogs offer me continuous variety of images, motion, and words that peak my curiosity and spark my sexuality.

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If you or your lady friend does not have the IVibe Pocket Rocket in her collection, then get it for you or for her today. The 4” long and 1” wide vibrator has a strong single speed that will get you off without getting you numb. The size and twist on and off control is easy to maneuver for solo and partner pleasure.

Do note that the one AA battery needed does not come with the product. However a 1.7 oz bottle of iLube is a part of the package. The iLube is scentless and silky, not sticky, and makes gliding of the Pocket Rocket effortless.

My favorite part of the Pocket Rocket is the 3 metal nubs at the top of the vibrator. With the right pressure, the nubs can glide or grind against your skin. After much use, I learned that holding one of the metal nubs to the left quadrant of my clit (rather than directly on my clit) proved for a speedy and heightened orgasm. I really enjoy experimenting with that level of precision. Because so many other vibrators are large and all consuming, I don’t think I would have found out about my left quadrant pleasure center without the Pocket Rocket. I recommend you find yours or hers for a special Valentines treat.

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As a fan of glass dildos (read my reviews of the Crystal Crescent and the E Glass Screamer), I was curious to check out the Taffy Tickler Silicone Twist for it’s crossbreed action. The pink and purple frosting-like decoration of silicone nubs adds another tactical layer to the warmth or coolness of glass. Both ends of the 8.5” x 1.5” dildo are useable and the toy is phthalate free.

Massaging the nubbed end against my labia felt like a relaxing yoni massage. Not that I have had a yoni massage, but the sensation is what I imagine a massage for the lady parts would feel like. However, insertion of the nubbed end proved to be less enjoyable. All the little silicone-frosting droplets were like rubber stoppers upon entry; they would not move easily, even with a dollop of lube. Instead of forcing something that wasn’t working, I focused on what was — a clit massage.

The Taffy Tickler looks to me like a strange medical implement, which inspired a doctor patient role-playing scene while I masturbated. A la 1850’s, I was being treated for hysteria. Spread naked on a table for examination, the doctor chose the Taffy Tickler from his medical cabinet and described my condition. Gently, while describing what he was doing and what I would feel, he rubbed the toy against my labia. He looked on with kind eyes as I felt a stirring in my lower body that I had never felt. He told me it was normal to move around and release any noises that came to me. I did. And then he moved quicker; the doctor pumped the dildo against my clit with speed and precision until I called out in joy. Thank, you doctor, thank you.

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Based off of the 1970’s “porn chic” movie “Deep Throat,” “Throat: A Cautionary Tale” is a dark “porn noir” feature. And what a feature it is — winner of 5 AVN Awards including Best Oral Sex Scene, Best Screenplay, and Best Supporting Actress: Penny Flame. If you are unfamiliar with the original “Deep Throat” the premise is based on one women’s discovery that her clit is placed at the back of her throat enabling her to give great head and pleasure herself at the same time.

Sasha Grey plays Julie, the woman with the talent many men wish more women had. Julie works as a peep show girl, is in a bad relationship, and is sexually frustrated. As she intones over footage of her deep throating a very large dildo, “My pussy was always my enemy. It never gave me what everyone else had. My girlfriends would talk about masturbating and I tried. But it never happened for me…..I was ashamed of myself. Then I found it in my throat.”

Make no mistake about it Sasha Grey can deep throat and look like it is all her pleasure: spit, slobber, gagging, tears, and all. That is until her bad boyfriend makes her talent a cash cow. The movie is incredibly plot driven with flashbacks on Julie’s time as a sex worker and present day shots on those trying to solve Julie’s murder. Yes, this is murder mystery porn — something that I found a little too dark for me. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth the watch.

“Throat: A Cautionary Tale” is 2 hours long with 1 hour of bonus feature footage. The sex scenes runs the usually gamut, with blowjobs and facial shots being the main focus. If that is your bag and/or you think Sasha Grey is a fox, you will defiantly want to pick up this skin flick.

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Remember Talk Sex with Sue Johnanson — the lady who looked like your conservative grandmother who would give frank and informative sex advice on cable TV? Sue Johnanson backs the Head Honcho and although it might not be so sexy to find a caricature of her on the box of a sex toy, Sue does have sex education cred.

The Head Honcho boasts that it has 3 suction cavities with a 5” shaft, and that it is tight and stretchy. The pussy sleeve (do you find that word as amusing as I do?) is made from silicone and is phthalate free.

It has been a while since I gave the male case study a toy of his own to review. “What’s this?” He said as I slipped it to him from outside of the shower curtain.

“Something to spice up your morning wank.”

He came out of the shower with a confused and thoughtful expression and had this to share.
“Unlike other masturbators I have used, this did not have the best overall design. The entry felt nice, but the inside crevices were too perfectly manufactured.”

I crept my fingers inside the Head Honcho and I would concur with my male case study. The 3 suction cavities are like a version of the round Tinker Toy piece and your skin does not easily glide past each cavity.

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The design of this fake pussy being a little too fake, the male case study said he will keep the Head Honcho for emergency masterbation situations only. But this is just one male case study opinion. Like the other male masturbators I have reviewed, I recommend getting this toy and stroking yourself while you listen to my sexy sex stories. Come’on. You know you want to.

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Growing up, Bewitched was one of my favorite shows to watch on the Nickelodeon. I loved Daren posturing over Samantha’s witchcraft. One can only imagine the stunts Samantha and her witchy family pull when the sweet 1960’s TV series gets a dirty twist.

“Not Bewitched XXX” is a lengthy porn with solid interludes between sex scenes. The plot centers on Aunt Clara (Eva Angelina) turning 1-year-old Tabitha (Teagan) into her future 18-year-old self — hot bod, sex kitten, and all. When Clara can’t undo the spell, Tabitha lingers in her future person long enough to discover sex. Tabitha’s sexual self-discovery begins when she politely excuses herself from the group to have a nap. But who could rest after a spell like that? With the curiosity and intrigue of a child, Tabitha gropes and provokes her adult body. I definitely recommend this AVN award-winning scene if you are into age place.

Also, if you have a thing for chicks in white Go-Go dancer boots this is your flick. Tabitha keeps her white boots on throughout her masturbation sequence. And Sasha Grey makes a white boot appearance on Darren’s desktop with her male cohort (Aaron Wilcoxxx). Best lines muttered from Sasha’s smoldering lips, “Take your fucking shirt off. Right now. That’s it.” Sasha Grey: desktop, reverse cowgirl, donning only white go-go boots, small tits bouncing, and dirty talking except when she is deep throating. Can we say replay. Male case study and I have watched this scene over and over again. Meow.

Falling not too far behind in my favorites is the sex scene between Tabitha (Jenna Haze) and Darren (Mike Horner). The husband and wife duo don’t stay wholesome for long. Jenna Haze coos at her man like a good wife saying things like, “Just like that. Yes.”

Other highlights include Nina Hartley as Samantha’s mother who magically appears in scenes at her whim and spouts off her opinion, just like in the TV show. Also, Ron Jeremy plays a genie that oversees an orgy of eight women. The women are in a free for all that occasionally becomes choreographed in oral sex circles and the like. Ron Jeremy and another women hold court, looking over the debauchery and touching themselves with abandon.

“Not Bewitched XXX” napped AVN’s 2009 award for Best Sex Comedy which is fitting considering the attention to detail in plot, character, costumes, makeup, and theatrics, including the dubbed in canned laughter. Including bonus features, this DVD boasts to have 5 hours of footage. The movie itself is 2 hours and 22 minutes, which is plenty of time to have a laugh, a wank, and a fuck, select your favorite scenes and repeat. At least, that is what the male case study and I did.

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The male case study and I are on a Sasha Grey kick. That coupled with a new Blu-ray player made for a fun night of home entertainment.

“Sun Goddess: Malibu” is the prom photo shoot of porn not in the cheesy backdrop sense, but in the “I’m going to bring my A game” sense. The production is shot entirely outside, with extensive and quality lighting, and varied pan shots with a camera boom. The high definition quality of Blu-ray means no stone was left untouched; not a boob job scar or ingrown pubic hair bump spotted.

The flick opens with Teagan Presley clad in a string bikini against a bright blue and smoke puff-clouded sky. The camera pans from overhead to skim her tanned and taunt body, making the viewer feel like you could just reach out and touch her. Her striptease, which includes covering herself with water, becomes slightly awkward when the dubbed in music stops.

Each of the 4 stars, Teagan Presley, Sasha Grey, Gianna Lynn, and Bree Olsen, have a 12 minute solo spot centered around a strip tease, a show and touch of genitalia, and dildo play. Subbing in for the facial shot, each scene ends with coy dildo licking. Teagan Presley’s licking includes, in my opinion, the unfortunate, “ass to mouth,” a skill she touts in the behind the scenes footage.

The AVN Awarding winning porn not only won for Best Solo Sex, but also Best All Girl Group Sex Scene. And what a scene it was. For 43 minutes, the ladies romp poolside for an evening filled with ass slapping, French kissing, carpet munching, dildo fucking, dirty mouth talking, strap on wearing, titty bouncing, clit rubbing, partner swapping fun filled times.

Sasha Grey is the only one without breast implants or a spray tan and that makes me like her even more. Her solo sex scene standing against a tree does not disappoint. Sasha has mastered the “come hither” look and she quietly mutters, “fuck” as she pleasures herself. It’s her naturalism in the act that gets the male case study and I every time.

Check out “Sun Goddess: Malibu” for the storyline free, artfully crafted pan shots of hot bodies, women pleasing themselves and each other action. If you like your porn sexy lesbian then order this one up.

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This installment of the Debbie series revolves around a rag tag group at spring break camp. Debbie (Sunrise Adams) is the cheerleading captain from the poor side of town and her spoiled rich teammates like to give her a hard time, be her best friend, and order her around. It’s all very confusing, just like in high school.

The interludes are long with some campy acting and pretty unfortunate fashion styling. The ladies cheer in rather conservative uniforms and the hot little bod of Sunrise Adams gets covered up in sweat suits five times her size. The baggy duds don’t stay on for long, of course, but still the sexy wearing-my-boyfriend’s-clothes is taken to an unsexy extreme in this skin flick.

Some highlights from the interludes are “The Man Show” inspired with naked jumping jacks, jogging without bras, and many rounds of spin the bottle.

The smut scenes are masturbation heavy, which is fitting for the camp backdrop. The sex is rather tame, but honest. Sunrise Adams eats a pussy like she actually enjoys the trip downtown. And female domination can be read into the not one, but two, scenes of a woman sitting on a man’s face.

Female empowerment can also be found in the opening scene when a woman gives a show for her jock boyfriend in the woods. Clothes stay on for the most part, but she rubs one out and scores the first come of the camp. Of course, her shudders are followed with engulfing his large cock in her mouth. But honestly, she looks happy as a clam to do so. In fact, she demanded him to put his cock in her mouth and she followed up phenomenal deep throating and cock spitting.

Debbie gets her voyeurism on when her co-workers break into spontaneous sex at the dining hall. She’s not left on the tabletop touching herself doggie style for long — a full-blown threesome erupts with ice cubes to boot. In the end, Debbie and her nemesis end up on the field naked mud wrestling and making out because where would a cheerleading camp movie be without that hot mess?

The bonus features are only photo galleries, but this 2-hour movie will keep you entertained plenty.

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Because I enjoyed the first parody so much, I had to check out the sequel and it did not let me down. Returning to this genius parody is Ashlynn Brooke (Michelle), Gianna Michaels (Candy), James Deen (Jimmy) and Dane Cross (Dwayne). Joining the crew is Sadie West (Sam), Nika Noir (Kylie), Jenny Hendricks (Kara), Randy Spears (Reed), Mr. Marcus (Stan), and Dino Bravo (Dave). The premise and interludes had me laughing just like the first one.

When Michelle is called to headquarters for her yearly review, she fears getting a corporate whip lashing. So she makes a video to demonstrate her dedication to employee happiness at Dinder Muffin. Here are the highlights:

Monday, Candy and Stan: inter-racial hard and fast fucking, serious deep throating, she’s a laugher and likes to bounce. Watching her naturally large boobs make fast and furious circles made my clit skip a beat.
Tuesday, Sam and Jimmy: It’s all about her pleasure in this one: clit rubbing, ass rimming, head giving, she’s a panter, and not a faker. Seeing her orgasm is one of the hottest things I have ever seen. It’s not one of those “did she come?” guessing games. He works for her pleasure and she climaxes more than once.
Wednesday, Kylie and Reed: multi-tasking a blowjob and rubbing one out for herself.
Thursday, Michelle and Dwyane: They coo and fuck and she fixes his nuts.
Friday, Kara and Dave: upside down face fucking with saliva a plenty, corona popping, and the 69. Everything after that is a bit of a bore.

In this weekly recap Monday and Tuesday were my favorite days. And there is more of Tuesdays vixen Sadie West in the bonus features. Hotness.

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The Venus Butterfly was one of the first sex toys I purchased back in my late teens. Over the years I have burned through many of these hand free vibrators, but the California Exotics ones have always lasted the longest. How have I burned through so many? Overheated the little things. The Venus Butterfly comes with little instruction, but I have determined that the vibrator should not be kept on full speed for longer than half an hour. It has been a couple years since I have owned a pair of these “vibrating panties,” so I was thrilled to get my hands on this one. Then, as I tried to put the Venus Butterfly on, I remembered the difficulty. Where do the straps go? What is the little extra thingy for? Does this strap go here or here?

Here is a photo taken of the Venus Butterfly right after use. See those two straps at the bottom? They wrap around your thigh and the top strap wraps around your waist. Seems to be totally logical, but it can get confusing once attached to your body. I fastened the one strap around my thigh and then I looked in total uncertainty at the other straps dangling from my leg. Which one goes where?

While working to adjust the unattached leg strap, I somehow unbuttoned the strap from the butterfly. Now there were several empty clasps and I wasn’t sure which one went to which. I looked to the box for help, but I couldn’t be bothered to study the one diagram on the back. I threw the box to the side. I was going to have to figure this one out on my own. So I compared the one strap to the other and after a minute I determined what needed to go where. Once the leg straps where in place, the waist strap was easy to hook together.

The frustrating minute or so it took me to get the Butterfly attached was as familiar as was the vibration that buzzed the entire length of my pussy. It felt great to have my hands free to do other things other than hold a vibrator. I loved how snug the Venus Butterfly rested against my body. The low-to-high vibration is controlled on a slider fashioned on both sides of the remote and the speed variation is nicely designed. The Butterfly may not the quietest vibrator, but it might just be the girliest, and I love it for that. Having a pink vibrator attached to me makes me feel sexy, feminine, and in control of my pleasure. But I don’t always have to be the one holding the control. This can be used in a variety of ways in varying positions. Think of the possibilities when you had over the remote and get on all fours. Yummy.

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I was expecting a lot from the Remote Control Bullet. The 10 different pulsation patterns didn’t intrigue me as much as the remote control feature. The idea that my partner could control when I would got buzzed from as far away as 25 feet filled me with excitement. I started thinking about all the different scenarios we can use this toy.

I tested the vibe to make sure it worked. The pulsations felt good in my hand. The toy is made out of the same “touch coating” as my previously reviewed Mini Love Bullet, which is one of my favorite vibes. Like the Mini Bullet, the Remote Control Bullet is phthalates free and waterproof. Love that.

Once I inserted the Bullet, I handed the remote to my male case study. He likes things with buttons and immediately starting pushing the controller that varies the pulsations. The vibration is not terribly strong and did not jolt me with its power. This may or may not be a good thing for some people. I like a strong vibe for my clit, but prefer milder internal vibration stimulation.

Sure enough the remote control worked up to 25 feet away. The buzz traveled through rooms, closed doors, my jeans, and my panties. It is not completely silent, but only emits a low drone. If in a loud environment the toy would not be heard at all. I couldn’t distinguish between the pulsations patterns, but in the end it didn’t matter. I was more turned on by the control my case study had than the actual sensation of the Bullet. He had great timing of when to turn the Bullet on and off.

This toy was definitely good for foreplay, but without other sexual activity, I found it hard to reach an orgasm from the Bullet alone. It is a fun toy to pack in your purse and play with in public. The anticipation of when the button will be pushed is the true eroticism of the Remote Control 10 Function Bullet.

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A big smile came across my face when the opening sequence of Roller Dollz began. I love ladies roller derby so the idea of watching roller derby themed porn excited me. Roller Dollz did not disappoint. The plot is loosely based around a championship between The Pin-Ups, The Bitch & Moaners, and The Skool Ghoulz. Interlaced between the skating competitions is lots of sex.

Here are the highlights of the 247-minute movie:

Scene 1: Locker room shower, standing symmetrical fucking, and missed spit.
Scene 2: Lezzie love, a blackened eye, and fun music track.
Scene 3: “Let’s go on a cock hunt,” honkey tonk, and in-skate fucking.
Scene 4: Fun champagne on titties intro, wet, luscious, and sexy, all girl.
Scene 5: Slutty savior, first David Lynch-esque dream sequence, and naked floor routine.
Scene 6: Quickie before practice and in-skate uniformed head bang fucking.
Scene 7: “Unwritten roles of roller derby,” referee seduction, and blackmail photos.
Scene 8: Flickering neon pool light effect, toile, and a bouncing tram stamp.
Scene 9: Blackmail return-to-sender, cock face slapping, and real pierced tits.
Scene 10: Watching the cheaters, post-cum fucking, and a bust.
Scene 11: Derby fight turned orgy on the rink.

The last scene and the ladies love fest of Scene 4 are my favorite. The DVD is long, but who says you have to watch the entire flick in one viewing? Pick your favorite scene and even pick your favorite positions; the disk menu divides each scene by positions. I was so turned on and inspired by Roller Dollz that I laced up my own skates and got fucking.

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As a fan of Tristan Taormino’s work, including her Village Voice column, her most recent book on open relationships, and, of course, her book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, I am always interested in Tristan’s viewpoint and education. The DVD “Expert Guide to Oral Sex Part Two: Fellatio” did not let me down.

The DVD begins with Tristan giving a workshop to 10 women, some of who look like they might prefer to be in between the legs of a woman rather than a man. But when Tristan brings out Christian and Roxy to demonstrate some techniques all audience members are actively engaged. Occasionally the camera pans to the faces of women who are licking their lips, shifting their bodies forward, and gripping at their knees, suggesting that that would like a turn at Christian’s cock.

Previous to the live demo, Tristan discussed the male anatomy (circumcised and uncircumcised) and it’s arousal points using excellent illustrations. The body parts are then diagrammed on a still frame of Christian’s naked body in position to receive head from Roxy. Having the key areas pinpointed makes it easy to be knowledgeable where the giver is focusing her attention. Like with all the couples preforming, Tristan begins by asking what Roxy and Christian enjoy about giving or receiving fellatio. While seated next to them on a long ottoman, Tristan talks through the phases of a good blow job that she organizes in these four stages: warm up, experiment, rhythm, and orgasm. It might seem clinical or odd to have someone giving instructions, but Tristan is casual in front of the camera and the couple is used to performing. After talking and demonstrating the four phases (except orgasm), Tristan opens up the floor for questions.

The DVD then becomes to a more traditional porn with scenes between three other men and women pairings. Kaiya and Alec focus on teasing, Lindsey and Marcos feature hand job techniques, and Adrianna and Alec show advanced skills such as deep throating and deep face thrusting. All givers communicate well with the receivers (“Is that the right pressure?” “Like that?”) and Tristan provides instructional voice-overs. Fun fellatio tips and reminders pop up on paused frames. This feature, which is reminiscent of the 90’s VHI’s Pop Up Video, was an added surprise and was helpful to note the benefits of certain positions or to note what the giver does when she needs a break. Also, the action can be viewed without the voice over and pop up instructions. I recommend watching Adrianna and Alec’s hot and sloppy deep throating without the tips and voice overs, her skills are something to aspire to.

The givers definitely run the show in this DVD — they take the cocks in as little or as much as they like. In standing shots, many of the men have their arms clasped behind them. It’s hot to see women giving head and look so turned on doing so. I got so turned on watching them that I interrupted my man working and got down on my knees.

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Stormy says, “The deeper you go, the tighter I get!”
I say, “For a fun way to change up your grip, enjoy the simulation of fucking a porn star.”

I picked out this male masturbator for the “curved ergonomic design that gets tighter the deeper you go!” As Stormy says, “I’m a super-stretchy 6″ handful, stuffed with a combination of ridged and knobby stimulators to drive your dick wild! I’m open-ended for easy care, use me with water-based lube.” I had my male case study compare this toy with the previously reviewed Hand Job Stroker (Adam & Eve Item #1236, $12.95).

Here are his thoughts:

Stormy’s Tight Pussy Masturbator has a lot of advantages. It’s way more …uhhh… intense feeling than the old tried-and-true. There are a lot of internal contours that are a nice touch. There is a nice opening, too. The exterior is very wobbly, though – this one makes it very apparent that your holding a fake pussy. I guess that, in summary, I’d say that this is a very good false vagina – for all that is good and bad about that.

Reviews on the A&E website complain of the pussy being too small and breaking. My male case study has not found this to be a problem as of yet.

As someone who has fucked many women, I did enjoy sticking my lubed up fingers inside the jelly pussy. I liked feeling the contours of the canal. Although it will never be as good as the real thing, Stormy’s Tight Pussy Masturbator comes pretty close.

I recommend getting this toy and stroking yourself while you listen to my sexy sex stories. Come’on. You know you want to.

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