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Kiss and Tell Reading Series

The reading has been rescheduled to 3/16 due to weather issues. Come see me then.

I will be reading something naughty at Abiola Abrams reading series on February 16th. The event is free and runs from 7-10pm at Madame X — 94 West Houston in NYC.

More Kiss and Tell events details here.

Abiola interviewed me for The Examiner. Read here to find out what is the sexiest thing I have done for somebody and vice versa.

Other readers for the Mardi Gras Fat Tuesday celebration include:
Twanna Hines of The Funky Brown Chick
Therese Shechter of Trixie Films
Modern Courtesan Yolanda Shoshana
Comic David Lester
Boy Butter creator Eyal Feldman
Lesbian Activist and Writer Renair Amin
Danielle Henderson of Knotty Yarn
Singing duo Sabrina and Giorgio
Katie AKA Lost Plum
Ceborah Gregory of CheetahRama

Ultimate Stroker Beads — A Sex Toy Review

Ultimate Stroker Beads (Adam & Eve Item #A970 $9.95)

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I was a little misled by the name of this product. I thought the Ultimate Stroker Beads would be a great male masturbator toy. Then I read the box and I realized it was more of a cock ring than masturbator. My male case study has not used a cock ring and he was hesitant about this one. I thought it would be his style being that he used to wear a beaded chain fan pull as a bracelet. When I reminded him of this, a smile crept over his face. He said he would try the toy out.
We were in a bit of a quickie situation; we had to be at a dinner party in less than an hour. Going for the sure fire techniques that we’ve mastered we got each other ramped up. Then he reached for it — The Ultimate Stroker Beads.
“I thought I would put it on,” I said and reached for his cock. But it was too late. He was leashed up. His cock looked pretty hot all fancied up.
“What’s it like to stroke yourself with it on?” I asked.
It was delicious to watching his fist wrap about the beaded portion of his cock. However, it did not feel so good for him. One stroke up and then back down and he was done with that.
“That hurts. I have a better idea on how to use it,” he said and pulled my legs in the air. He positioned The Beads at the base of his cock and brought his tip to my labia. He ran the head of his cock up and down my lips like he knows I like.
“What do the Beads feel like? Is it working like a cock ring? You know that the cock ring is supposed to suppress the blood flowing to the cock, which makes for a longer and stronger orgasm.”
“Yeah. I know. We’re not writing the review now. No more questions,” he commanded.
“Sorry,” I said. The last syllable was dragged out into a moan — he was inside of me.
The deeper he drove, the more the beads come in contact with my clit. A-Ha. Maybe this was the true gem of this toy. I like it.
I will leave the rest of our sex to your imagination. But here are some final thoughts about the toy.

The Ultimate Stroker Beads:
• didn’t work so well as a masturbator or a cock ring. The beading is too hard for stroking and the elasticity too lose to really restrict the blood flow like a cock ring.
• worked really well as a fun experiment. It was enjoyable to try something new that will not break the bank.
• felt good on our genitalia because we were mostly hairless. If not hairless, I think hair would get caught in the elastic beading.
• is great for a bit of extra external stimulation for her.

Because he said it didn’t feel like anything in particular to have it on and because I think he looks hot wearing it and I like the way it feels, you can bet we will be using this one again.

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Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio — A DVD Review

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio (Adam & Eve Item #F898, $29.95)

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As a fan of Tristan Taormino’s work, including her Village Voice column, her most recent book on open relationships, and, of course, her book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, I am always interested in Tristan’s viewpoint and education. The DVD “Expert Guide to Oral Sex Part Two: Fellatio” did not let me down.

The DVD begins with Tristan giving a workshop to 10 women, some of who look like they might prefer to be in between the legs of a woman rather than a man. But when Tristan brings out Christian and Roxy to demonstrate some techniques all audience members are actively engaged. Occasionally the camera pans to the faces of women who are licking their lips, shifting their bodies forward, and gripping at their knees, suggesting that that would like a turn at Christian’s cock.

Previous to the live demo, Tristan discussed the male anatomy (circumcised and uncircumcised) and it’s arousal points using excellent illustrations. The body parts are then diagrammed on a still frame of Christian’s naked body in position to receive head from Roxy. Having the key areas pinpointed makes it easy to be knowledgeable where the giver is focusing her attention. Like with all the couples preforming, Tristan begins by asking what Roxy and Christian enjoy about giving or receiving fellatio. While seated next to them on a long ottoman, Tristan talks through the phases of a good blow job that she organizes in these four stages: warm up, experiment, rhythm, and orgasm. It might seem clinical or odd to have someone giving instructions, but Tristan is casual in front of the camera and the couple is used to performing. After talking and demonstrating the four phases (except orgasm), Tristan opens up the floor for questions.

The DVD then becomes to a more traditional porn with scenes between three other men and women pairings. Kaiya and Alec focus on teasing, Lindsey and Marcos feature hand job techniques, and Adrianna and Alec show advanced skills such as deep throating and deep face thrusting. All givers communicate well with the receivers (“Is that the right pressure?” “Like that?”) and Tristan provides instructional voice-overs. Fun fellatio tips and reminders pop up on paused frames. This feature, which is reminiscent of the 90’s VHI’s Pop Up Video, was an added surprise and was helpful to note the benefits of certain positions or to note what the giver does when she needs a break. Also, the action can be viewed without the voice over and pop up instructions. I recommend watching Adrianna and Alec’s hot and sloppy deep throating without the tips and voice overs, her skills are something to aspire to.

The givers definitely run the show in this DVD — they take the cocks in as little or as much as they like. In standing shots, many of the men have their arms clasped behind them. It’s hot to see women giving head and look so turned on doing so. I got so turned on watching them that I interrupted my man working and got down on my knees.

So don’t miss out on the education and titillation. Purchase “Tristan Taormin’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex Part Two: Fellatio” DVD at www.adamandeve.com/miaontop and receive a 50% discount.

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Episode 20 — BJ Backlash

Episode 20 — BJ Backlash

The clash between fantasy and reality.

 
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Look Mom, I’ve Been Put in Time Out

Look Mom, I'm on Time Out

The 2010 NYC Sex Blogger Calendar Release Party was a huge success. I do not have the numbers on money raised and calenders sold. I do know that the Fontana’s was packed. All the ladies featured in the calendar were looking foxy and they were having fun signing calendars with silver sharpies. I had a wonderful time chatting with fans of the podcast, sponsors of the calender, new Twitter friends, and long time friends who came out to support.

One of the highlights of the night was seeing M and C win an Inflatable Fuck Lounger in the raffle. With only 3 raffle tickets purchased and determined to win the most ridiculous prize, they put all three tickets in for the fucking machine. The funniest thing about this win, is that this is their first sex toy. M has never even used a vibrator. And now she has a fuck lounger that comes with 3 dildos. “All I’ve ever needed is my hand and C’s cock. That is about to change,” she said. As we made our way into the night in search of more food and drink, M carried the large box with pride. “Yes, I won. That’s right, it’s a fucking machine.” As a group of us shuttled into a packed Chinese restaurant, the box busted open and parts fell everywhere. It was a moment of hysterical hysteria as we all gathered the pieces and reassembled the box. “Looks like it’s been a fun night,” someone said.

It certainly was.

A big thank you to Tess and Diva for putting together a beautiful calendar and for throwing an excellent party.

If you weren’t able to make it to the party, you can still purchase a calendar. Click here.

The photo shown on the Time Out website is an outtake from the shoot. See which photo made the cut. I’ll tease you with this. It’s an even more sizzling photo for the chilliness of January, so start your year off right.

The 2010 New York City Sex Blogger Calender (I’m in it, here’s the story)

Visions of Sexual Freedom: The 2010 New York City Sex Blogger Calender

2010 marks the second year that Tess and Diva have put together the New York City Sex Blogger Calender. All proceeds from the calender go to Sex Work Awareness (SWA). If you are aren’t sure what sex work awareness is all about, here is a portion of SWA mission statement:

We believe that all sex workers have a right to self-determination; to choose how we make a living and what we do with our bodies. We conduct research about sex workers and the sex industry in order to better understand it, develop public education initiatives, and advocate for the rights of sex workers.

Read more here.

When Tess and Diva asked me to be a model in the calender, I was honored and thrilled to be a part of such a great project. They paired me with a photographer, told me the theme, Visions of Sexual Freedom, and gave me a deadline. I completely appreciated the freedom of expression to interpret the theme as I desired and I was a bit overwhelmed. What would my interpretation of sexual freedom look like?

Through lots of self reflection and discussions with the photographer, I discovered my sexual freedom is rooted in openness. I have found myself to be open in my sexual fluidity as a lesbian and bisexual, in exploring variations of non-monogamy, and in pushing boundaries in kink. All of which can be well described in written form, but how would it be translated into 2D and remain a hot, sexy photograph that would make people want to buy the calender?

On our first shoot, the photographer and I ended up with some sexy photos, but we felt the photos didn’t fully capture a sense of openness in bisexuality or non-monogamy. So for the second shoot we had help from willing participants to be props in the photos (thanks, MS & AW), which ended with many of the photos feeling contrived. Also, with additional limbs in the frame, sometimes I got lost and my agency confused. Was I preying on or being preyed on? Depicting agency in the photograph was really important to me; I wanted to look in control of my sexuality. So we dutiful set out on a third shot. And, ladies and gentlemen, the phrase was true again. The third time was the charm. (Thanks, CS & MS.)

I don’t expect congratulations for having completed so many shoots (but many, many thanks to Alex for all his hard work). Rather, I share the details of the photo shoots because it was an interesting and challenging journey in self-expression. I am grateful to have been given an opportunity and a platform to interpret my sexual freedom amongst so many cool and inspiring sex bloggers. I am really happy with the final photograph and I can’t wait to see calender.

Come and celebrate the calender release with me on:

Friday November 6, 2009 — 6:30 – 9:30 PM
Fontana’s — 105 Eldridge Street, New York, NY
FREE ADMISSION

More details about the calender, the party swag, the raffle, and the sex bloggers, here.

The 2010 NYC Sex Blogger Calender can be purchased here.

Episode 19 — Lip Service

Episode 19 — Lip Service

Pirates, a masseuse, and femdom.

 
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Episode 18 — Weekend Bound

Episode 18 — Weekend Bound

A kinky sex retreat, a love song, and a pony and dog show.

 
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Sex Survey

If you are age 18 or older you are invited to participate in a study called SEXPLORATIONS. We are interested in learning more about adult sexuality. Help us to do so by completing our online questionnaire; it will take about 20-45 minutes of your time. You will be entered into a drawing for one of ten $40 online gift certificates to a store of your choice from a provided list. To learn more about the study and complete the questionnaire, please visit this website: http://WWW.CHESTNYC.ORG and click the “Sexplorations” link.
If you have any questions about this research please contact José Nanín at jnanin@chestnyc.org. This research has been approved by the City University of New York Hunter College and Kingsborough Community College Institutional Review Boards for the Protection of Human Subjects.

Episode 16 — Vulnerability and Desire (Squeezed and Shucked)

Episode 16 — Vulnerability and Desire (Squeezed and Shucked)

Naked for the first time.

 
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